One of the most fundamental features of Islam’s vision for society is upholding the ties of kinship, particularly between children and their parents—whom they are obligated to treat with excellence.
“Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good…” [4:36]
Life doesn’t always go according to plan. Relationships sometimes break down, but the bond between parents and children is a sacred one.
In Their Shoes is a nationwide campaign supported by Muslim organisations and leaders from all schools of thought to:
1) raise awareness of the destructiveness of breaking such sacred bonds;
2) help those who are involved in such disputes find an amicable resolution for all parties, especially the children.
This fundamental is sometimes put in danger by some cultural practices and norms. We have noticed that there has been an increase in the number of Muslim couples turning to an anti-Islamic practice found in their local cultures, of denying meaningful relationships between their children and their ex-spouse, without a valid Islamic reason or due process.
This is a grave injustice (dhulm) on three levels:
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: “Whoever separates a mother from her child, Allah will separate him from his loved ones on the Day of Resurrection.”
Allāh, the Most High, said: “‘I am al-Rahmān (the Most Merciful). I have created al-rahim (ties of kinship) and derived its name from My name. Whoever joins them, I shall join with them. And whoever severs them, I shall cut them off.’”
But no, by your Lord, they will not [truly] believe until they make you, [O Muhammad], judge concerning that over which they dispute among themselves and then find within themselves no discomfort from what you have judged and submit in [full, willing] submission. [4:65]
Then is it the judgement of [the time of] ignorance they desire? But who is better than Allah in judgement for a people who are certain [in faith]. [5:50]
And whoever does not judge by what Allah has revealed – then it is those who are the disbelievers. [5:44]
A Toxic Practice
If you or someone you know is involved in a dispute involving their children then visit our resources page to find recognised bodies that are able to offer psychological, spiritual and mediation assistance which has your long term interests at heart.