I don’t have
access to my kids
One of the most fundamental features of Islam’s vision for society is upholding the ties of kinship, particularly between children and their parents—whom they are obligated to treat with excellence.
“Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good…” [4:36]
This fundamental is sometimes put in danger by some cultural practices and norms. We have noticed that there has been an increase in the number of Muslim couples turning to an anti-Islamic practice found in their local cultures, of denying meaningful relationships between their children and their ex-spouse, without a valid Islamic reason or due process.
This is a grave injustice (dhulm) on three levels:
Dhulm against the deprived parent
The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said: “Whoever separates a mother from her child, Allah will separate him from his loved ones on the Day of Resurrection.”
It is dhulm against the deprived parent and family, and a major sin since the Prophet ﷺ warned of a hereafter-related punishment for it. It is also a cutting of the ties of kinship, another major sin with multiple warnings throughout Islam.
Allāh, the Most High, said: “‘I am al-Rahmān (the Most Merciful). I have created al-rahim (ties of kinship) and derived its name from My name. Whoever joins them, I shall join with them. And whoever severs them, I shall cut them off.’”
Dhulm against the children
But no, by your Lord, they will not [truly] believe until they make you, [O Muhammad], judge concerning that over which they dispute among themselves and then find within themselves no discomfort from what you have judged and submit in [full, willing] submission. [4:65]
Then is it the judgement of [the time of] ignorance they desire? But who is better than Allah in judgement for a people who are certain [in faith]. [5:50]
And whoever does not judge by what Allah has revealed – then it is those who are the disbelievers. [5:44]